Mankind generally seems to have an innate desire for balance. This is perfectly demonstrated in the children’s storybook “Goldilocks and the Three Bears”. Goldilocks does not want her porridge to be too hot or too cold, her chair too big or too small, nor her bed too soft or too hard. She wants these things to be “just right”.
As we discuss different aspects of balance in the next few Design 101 posts we are basically talking about how to get a room to feel “just right”.
Today I’m going to be talking about the balance between masculinity and femininity.
There are some general colors, patterns, shapes, and elements to design and decor that read more masculine or feminine.
These groupings are not absolute truths but common perceptions. For example there is no decree that declares pink as a girl color but most people do connect the color as being feminine. Here are two illustrations.
Do you think this room is more feminine or more masculine?
And how about this room? Does it read more feminine or masculine?
To me the first room reads feminine and the second masculine. Here are some common qualities of masculine and feminine design elements.
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Now that I have listed some of the masculine and feminine design traits it might be fun to go back up to the mostly feminine and the mostly masculine room photos and see what particular elements created that vibe. For example, the shiny mirrors and soft rug in the feminine office and the wood tones and hard brick in the masculine room.
Unless the room is a girl’s bedroom or a boy’s bedroom I prefer rooms that have a balance of both masculine and feminine traits. The rooms below are great examples of designers who orchestrated this beautiful blend of masculine and feminine features. See if you can identify which furnishings and décor read more masculine and which read more feminine.
I’m in love with these rooms!
(Masculine Features of this room- Color and boxy shapes of the built-ins, art on the wall, color of the chair, color, shape, and plainness of the rug, boxy wood trim on wall around the door, boxy ottomans. Feminine Features of this room- shiny and ornate chandelier, intricate design on base of side table, color and tufting of ottomans, curvy light above chair, curvy little legs on chair, bright colors of some of the decorative books)
(Masculine Features of this room- striped rug, boxy club chairs, squared coffee table, wood tones of furnishings, plain lines of floor lamp, shape of mirror. brown color of throw, wrought iron material on legs and décor items. Feminine features of this room- blue pastels, flowers, shiny mirror, shiny table lamp bases, curves of pinch pleated drapes, the soft material of the throw, curved lines of slipper chairs, glass top on coffee table, round shape of decorative balls and plate)
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on masculine/feminine touches in a well designed room. After reading your post I discovered I always ‘thought’ this way, but it was subconsciously. I was drawn to the rooms that were a mix but I never knew why. Thanks for identifying these differences and the great examples of each. I will be sure to be mindful of this in my future decor. This was a fun post too!
Hi, Joanne. I’m so happy to hear you enjoyed this post! Thanks so much for taking the time to let me know. It means a lot!:-)
I second the responder. I love your blog the bead board bed I will b making that for sure thanks for plans
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Jeanne, thanks so much for your comment! I would love to hear how it goes!
I prefer a masculine/feminine mix as well, but I struggle with how to pull it together. Your list of guidelines (I love lists) were very helpful. Thanks for sharing, I am pinning this and looking forward to more Decorating 101 posts
Kristine, thanks fr your comment! I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed reading the Design 101 posts!:-) They’ve been fun to put together!
Really enjoyed the post, thank you. I recently looked around my apartment and realized how much it jars on me and bugs me, despite loving everything in it when I bought them. I’m in provided housing overseas, and thought my disgust came from not having a choice about the yellow curtains and acid yellowed green chairs (and that is a problem) but this helped me realize that the problem for me is they hyper masculinity of what I’ve put together, anchored by a persian rug that screams to be softened with feminine accents. It’s not *me* and feels wrong. Time for more shine and curves. 🙂
Yay, Andrea, I’m excited for you to bring more feminity into your space and to create an environment where you feel at home! Thanks so much for sharing this!!:-)